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It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.

But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.

And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.

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'A live-action adaptation of the classic manga Ghost in the Shell appears to be one step closer to reality. Deadline reports that Rupert Sanders, director of Snow White and the Huntsman, has signed on to direct the project for Dreamworks. Written by Masamune Shirow, the original manga follows a covert task force focused on cybercrime, and spawned multiple video games, sequels, and anime adaptations.'

Okay, but this better not result in a bunch of already-famous white people being cast in the roles of Kusanagi, Aramaki, Batou and Ishikawa, and justifying it with “oh, the cybernetic bodies can look any way I want them to” because that is some bullshit and anyone who knows the source material well enough to be making a movie about it better know that.


Waiting to hear about whether or not I got the job.

Another day, another trip across the bridge for a job interview.
Across the bridge for a job interview. #wishmeluck



Utah is ending homelessness by giving people an apartment or home.
Earlier this month, Hawaii State representative Tom Bower (D) began walking the streets of his Waikiki district with a sledgehammer, and smashing shopping carts used by homeless people. “Disgusted” by the city’s chronic homelessness problem, Bower decided to take matters into his own hands — literally. He also took to rousing homeless people if he saw them sleeping at bus stops during the day.
Bower’s tactics were over the top, and so unpopular that he quickly declared “Mission accomplished,” and retired his sledgehammer. But Bower’s frustration with his city’s homelessness problem is just an extreme example of the frustration that has led cities to pass measures that effective deal with the homeless by criminalizing homelessness.
City council members in Columbia, South Carolina, concerned that the city was becoming a “magnet for homeless people,” passed an ordinance giving the homeless the option to either relocate or get arrested. The council later rescinded the ordinance, after backlash from police officers, city workers, and advocates.
Last year, Tampa, Florida — which had the most homeless people for a mid-sized city — passed an ordinance allowing police officers to arrest anyone they saw sleeping in public, or “storing personal property in public.” The city followed up with a ban on panhandling downtown, and other locations around the city.
Philadelphia took a somewhat different approach, with a law banning the feeding of homeless people on city parkland. Religious groups objected to the ban, and announced that they would not obey it.
Raleigh, North Carolina took the step of asking religious groups to stop their longstanding practice of feeding the homeless in a downtown park on weekends. Religious leaders announced that they would risk arrest rather than stop.
This trend makes Utah’s accomplishment even more noteworthy. In eight years, Utah has quietly reduced homelessness by 78 percent, and is on track to end homelessness by 2015.
How did Utah accomplish this? Simple. Utah solved homelessness by giving people homes. In 2005, Utah figured out that the annual cost of E.R. visits and jail says for homeless people was about $16,670 per person, compared to $11,000 to provide each homeless person with an apartment and a social worker. So, the state began giving away apartments, with no strings attached. Each participant in Utah’s Housing First program also gets a caseworker to help them become self-sufficient, but the keep the apartment even if they fail. The program has been so successful that other states are hoping to achieve similar results with programs modeled on Utah’s.

#solve homelessness by giving people homes? unbelievable

Holy shit, go Utah.

This post keeps making the rounds, and although it is a step in the right direction, I urge people to research more about this program and its shortcomings, because it HAS NOT SOLVED HOMELESSNESS. For starters, the criteria for eligibility for this program seems to be difficult to find online. I have heard that in order to qualify, applicants must meet the definition of “chronically homeless”, which does not help anyone who is about to lose their home or has been without a home for less than the required amount of time. Previously, there were rapid rehousing programs to assist with short-term situations, but the funding for those has largely expired and has not been replaced.
Additionally, one of the issues which keeps people from being able to reintegrate after experiencing poverty and/or homelessness is mental illness. These circumstances are some of the most stressful a human being can experience, and they don’t tend to have a good impact on mental health. And yet, earlier this year, an agency in SLC  that provides mental health, substance abuse and addiction recovery services for low/no income individuals was forced to cut care for 2,200 patients due to loss of funding.  
This program implemented in Utah is definitely a good program, and deserves our support and enthusiasm. But please do not think that this will help everyone who is faced with homelessness, unemployment or underemployment (yes, a large percentage of homeless people actually DO have jobs, contrary to what most people think. It’s actually very expensive to be homeless, and you usually can’t save up any money because you can’t buy food which requires cooking or refrigeration, among many other reasons), because it simply won’t. 
The more laws and ordinances that are made to persecute the homeless, such as no sleeping/camping in various spaces, no storing possessions in public places, no distribution of food by church groups in public parks, the less likely any person experiencing these circumstances is to be able to get on their feet. If you have to be officially homeless for a specific amount of time before you qualify for this program in Utah, but you have nowhere to go in the mean time, how is that actually helping?
(Thanks to my pal, firehose, for bringing up many of these points in a comment thread elsewhere).
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Dad, I never understood why you liked this candy, but I ate two of them in your honour. #circuspeanuts #nofilter
Yup, pretty much.
When people you don’t know very well insist on communicating exclusively by phone for every little thing when an email would be faster, more convenient and not put you on the spot all the time.